It's better to have money than to have love..
Love is not utilitarian. In fact, “usefulness” and “love” are antithetical concepts – i.e., if love is a “tool,” it’s not love. Money is the ability to trade goods and services – by definition it is useful. And for many people, money goes far beyond commerce. It equates to love, power, happiness, security, control, dependency, independence, freedom, and much more.
Money is logistically easier to get and keep than love. As dismal as the economy currently is, getting money is as easy as making something useful or doing something productive and then selling the goods or services in exchange for money. Love is more complicated. In fact, “getting love” may be impossible. Love can be received when it’s given, but it can’t really be “obtained.” Money, as a practical matter, is easier to keep because it tends to be less about emotion and is, therefore, more controllable. Love, on the other hand, always involves another person’s emotions. As a result, one’s ability to “keep love” is a crap shoot at best.
Money can be used to provide peace of mind, and with peace of mind comes much freedom. The risk, of course, is that money will lead to excessive materialism that becomes a subtle form of slavery – especially if debt is involved. Love can lead to freedom if it is unconditional, which is rarely the case. Rather, love tends to come with “strings attached,” which causes people to restrain their true natures or become something they aren’t for the sake of maintaining relationships. In the end, the benefits of “having money” (i.e., wealth) outweigh its risks.
When it comes to causing problems, love and money equally capable. Money can cause problems for people at all levels of income. Not having enough money or having too much money can both be detrimental to personal well-being. Love and relationships are “messy” at best and incredibly destructive in many cases – not only to those directly involved, but to everyone close to those directly involved.
Which is less likely to let you down? Money – enough said.
Love and money can both bring happiness (or not) depending on how you choose to live. Interestingly, in life money and love often seem to be inextricably intertwined. When two individuals form a “love relationship” with each other, money is always a partner, too. And because of things like community breakdown, family stress, and spiritual alienation, many people feel a core emptiness that they try to fill up with “stuff” (i.e., overspending money). The best bet for happiness may be to avoid debt, live frugally, be flexible, and openly communicate with loved ones.